The why

I've encountered a few suggestions to ask about the reason why I want something in my life. If I figure out the why, then it will be easier to a) stick to complishing it or b) figure out another way to satisfy the why.

Some people will tell right away their reasons, some people need time. I'm in the second category.

To help people like me, there is a simple exercise to follow that will eventually bring you to the real why, because we, humans like to camouflage the truth way too much.

Here it goes. You take the thing you desire and stick it into a sentence where you ask yourself what about this desire is important to you. In my case, what about being a writer is important to me.

You answer once, then you ask same question and this time around insert the previous answer and the cycle repeats for 5 to 7 times. It's a fun exercise, but I'm not sure how well it discovered my truthful why.

My final sentence was:"Being a writer will help me feel normal."

My mind went blank. Hold your horses, pal! There is no such thing as normal, nor will it ever be!

Normal is something you can sort of come up with within a context, a culture, a comparison, a society. Outside of that, normal is just a funny word.

Saying that I want to be normal is like saying I don't want to be myself. And that is not normal.

So I paused to listen to my gut for a better answer. My gut told me that the reason I want to be a writer is because I like to collect experiences and being a writer is sure an interesting experience. Simple! Normal.

The joy is free

Luckily for us, all the feelings we go through are generated by our own mindset. We might not have control over a lot of things, but how we feel, how to deal with our emotions, how to generate good vibes, is totally in our own power.

Try to go for a run and not feel high on the endorphins afterwards. If you're in the dumps, a little or a lot of phisical activity can do wonders to your own morale.

But even if you don't feel like dancing or walking or swimming or playing tennis, (choose your own preffered activity - anything that will get your blood flowing), our brain can do just as much.

Choosing thoughts that are empowering or different from the day to day routine can spark joy too.

Seeing that you're in a vicious loop of destructive thinking is a bit more daunting. But once you're there, there is a buffet of feelings in front of you waiting to be picked.

Yes, it's that easy. You don't have to jump through the hoops ( although literal jumping is quite beneficial), you don't have to have a prestigious job, you don't need to have the partner of your dreams, you don't need to be smart, you don't need anything, but to make a decision.

Today I pick joy and I'm sticking to it! I will radiate joy like the sun radiates heat!

Law of attraction, gratitude and vulnerability

I have a friend who fully believes in the law of attraction. We've often discussed it and shared our experiences about how it worked in our lives. She's more tourough in implementing it than me. Once in a while, I'll forget about it and go back to my old ways.

I saw her today and over a cup of tea, I shared some random thoughts about how lost I felt. I chose to be vulnerable because I felt safe. My friend, with the most possible charm, reminded me of the law of attraction and how by constantly thinking about my being lost I was attracting that. She immediately mentioned gratitude and as she spoke, it didn't feel preechy, but rather like a real wish to help, to bring my energy up.

I connected to her desire and was completely open to her suggestions. There was no resistance from my part. Gratitude? Why not? Bring it on. Practice it at night with my daughter while falling asleep? Great idea! Get in tune with yourself? Pay attention to your thoughts? Choose one good word that would sum up all that you wish? Yes, please!

Needless to say, I left lighter and more at peace then when I came. I went to help my friend and in turn, I got more than I could hope for. I left energized! I'm sure grateful for that!

Another friend got me to open up and be vulnerable as well. I didn't feel safe, but I took a risk. By being vulnerable, I felt more connected to her. And it payed off! The exchange between us was exactly what I was missing and I had a warm feeling after that for a long time. I was very grateful for the moments we shared toghether! And definitely very grateful that I have someone like her in my life.

All in all, it was a very beautiful, human, filled with gratitude day for me! Thanks to wonderful friends, a wish to help, a little vulnerability and the law of attraction! Peace!